Where such men love they have no desire and where they desire they cannot love.
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Love in the form of longing and deprivation lowers the self regard.
deprivation / Longing / love / regard
Instinct of love toward an object demands a mastery to obtain it, and if a person feels they can’t control the object or feel threatened by it, they act negatively toward it.
control / instinct / love / mastery / negatively
A love that does not discriminate seems to me to forfeit a part of its own value, by doing an injustice to its object; and secondly, not all men are worthy of love.
discriminate / injustice / love / value / worthy
My love is something valuable to me which I ought not to throw away without reflection.
love / reflection / throw / valuable
A religion, even if it calls itself a religion of love, must be hard and unloving to those who do not belong to it.
When a love-relationship is at its height there is no room left for any interest in the environment; a pair of lovers are sufficient to themselves.
environment / interest / love / relationship / sufficient
An inability to meet the real demands of love is one of the essential characteristics of neurosis; the patients are dominated by the opposition of reality and fantasy. They will flee from what they long for most intensely in their fantasies if they encounter it in real life, and they are most likely to abandon themselves to fantasies when they no longer need to fear their realization.
It sounds not only disagreeable but also paradoxical, yet it must nevertheless be said that anyone who is to be really free and happy in love must have surmounted his respect for women and have come to terms with the idea of incest with his mother or sister.
free / Happy / incest / love / paradoxical
It is that we are never so defenceless against suffering as when we love, never so helplessly unhappy as when we have lost our loved object or its love.
defenceless / lost / love / suffering / unhappy